5 Rules for a Happy Relationship
A Mars Venus Facilitator since 1996, Janice Hoffman
has coached singles and couples on their relationships, giving them
skills and techniques to use in relating with the opposite sex.
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Rules for a Happy Relationship
1. Remember your partner isn’t perfect.
Many times we love our partner so much that we see them as more perfect
than other people in our life. In this light, we hold them to an ideal,
one that embraces the thought that this person will not hurt us.
2. Let your love be stronger than your anger.
This is so important. Sometimes we get caught up in our need to be right.
Yet being right isn’t winning at all. Being angry disconnects us
from ourself and our partner. It is the result feeling our needs aren’t
being met. Winning only has room for one.
3. Be flexible. After you ask for what you
want, the next step is to be flexible. We become afraid when we aren’t
getting what we need. Our tendency then is to become rigid. It is difficult
to be flexible and rigid at the same time.
4. Look for the good, no matter how small.
Sometimes we overlook the small things our partner does for us. This
is especially true for deeds done on a regular basis, like taking out
the trash, cleaning the bathroom or making the bed. From a woman’s
point of view, when her partner does domestic chores, she sees him as
contributing to the housework, not as doing something romantic. As a
result, her husband’s efforts are not usually appreciated. Yet,
this is the best way to demotivate a man - forget to appreciate his efforts.
5. Treat your spouse with the respect and kindness
you show your friends.
By Janice Hoffman