Dear Linda,
I really need your advice more now than ever. I have flirted with and gotten intimate with a store manager on the second time seeing him at my house, as well as exchange some phone calls with him. I like him although he is separated. I want to make him my man but it seems that he only wants intimacy. I want to get to know him before any more intimacy occurs, which was too early in the first place. He hasn't even taken me out yet, and from my understanding will not take me out because he is still married, which is understandable. He has been with me after dark at his house and mine.

Since everyone knows he is the manager of this supermarket, he takes extra careful to not be seen with one of the shoppers at the store. However, when I go to the store he manages, I speak to him, smile or wave like nothing is going on. I periodically go to the supermarket parking lot after he gets off of work and wait for him to get to his car to smile and say hi. Should I stop waiting for him to get off of work in the parking lot to say hi or just see him in the store and speak? Would you feel I am being disrespected by not being asked out and being asked to come to his house after 6:30 p.m. I have even told him that I want to get to know you in every aspect not just sex, if you give me a chance.

He is a mysterious man. He gave me a serious look the last time I went to the parking lot to speak to him, the previous times there were always smiles.
Pat

Dear Pat,
From what you have told me, I would expect nothing more than a physical relationship from this man. He has given you no sincere indication that he wants anything more than what you are getting. If you want more than sex, tell him. Wait and see how he handles it, my guess is the relationship would be over.

Playing with a married man is playing with fire, chances are he will use you until you hurt too much to go on, meanwhile he's just having fun. Good luck.

Dear Linda,
I want to flirt with men that I am attracted to however, I don't see any that I am attracted to. I rarely go anywhere other than the grocery store, gas station, and department stores. I see mostly women wherever I go and work in a female dominant work place. Many men that look at me are much older or much younger than I. I am in a bad situation in locating a match for myself.

Any helpful advice as to where to flirt?
Annette

Dear Annette,
I can only suggest that you frequent establishments that attract people your age, take a night class or dancing lesson.

Dear Linda,
If you found out that someone you have flirted with is married and not living with their spouse should you keep in contact with that person in the event he becomes available?
Towanna

Dear Towanna,
Let him get in touch with you. It is probable that any relationships he gets into at this time, would be superficial.

Dear Linda,
If a man you have flirted with invites you to his house to spend the night and have breakfast with him at his house in the morning does that suggests that he is interested in you?
Janet

Dear Janet,
It sounds like he is interested, but then cats are interested in mice too.